I just don't know anymore... - Page 6

7Plagues · #76 05-07-2007, 04:07 PM

She is clearly taking advantage of you as a person, with using you as a "safety net". She clearly doesnt care about your feelings, your thoughts or the things you have done for her and her child. It is pretty funny that we are both have the same situation with the same type of girl. it makes me lose more and more faith on humanity, ya know?

-bob

OLIE_ROCKS_THE_80'S · #77 05-07-2007, 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by FloridaNative

I am speechless after reading this. I can't believe that any girl would do such things. In fact after reading these posts I feel like I have to apologize on behalf of my sex for all this animosity and hurt they've caused. But the same way not all guys are like the ones that guitar chick has had the pain of dealing with, not all girls are this way either. People are people and they are either good or bad. I think you have to take people each one on their own merit otherwise you fall into the danger of stereotyping. Just my humble 2 cents.

You don't have to apologize for something you did not do! but the reality is that with women being so "liberated" nowadays they feel they can do anything and have no consequences, specially, the young ones

as you can read in all my posts I never just bashed females, and I'm 100% with JJemmer, it is the person not the "Gender" but you have to agree
that girls in this day and age are out of conrol and it is getting worse everyday unfortunately...

That is why I thank God I am happily married
and I'm no longer out there on the currrent scene looking for someone!

microdmitry · #78 05-07-2007, 04:34 PM

I'd give it another chance or two. It's often too easy to get carried away with the negatives and not give the other person a chance. You WILL have to learn to talk to your wife/girlfriend, and without communication things may seem worse to you than they really are, because you're talking to others and there's a natural tendency in people to make things sound worse than they are. To me a part of your problem seems to be that you guys didn't talk about smaller problems and you've allowed them to become big problems.

There's no harm in doing a little diplomacy. Lay down the options, tell her what you find unacceptable, let her speak, too - maybe she wants something from you but is afraid to ask. At the worst, you'll part ways without being pissed off at each other till the end of your lives, at the best - you'll help her become a better person. Behave like a man, though. Show her you will not tolerate things you feel strongly about, don't beg, don't lose temper, be firm, be prepared - have factual information to back up what you say.

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That means I can remarry someday without being excommunicated

Whoa, dude. This stuff is none of their business IMO. Personally, I'd rather get excommunicated than let anyone tell me what I can and can not do with my life.

OLIE_ROCKS_THE_80'S · #79 05-07-2007, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by 7Plagues

She is clearly taking advantage of you as a person, with using you as a "safety net". She clearly doesnt care about your feelings, your thoughts or the things you have done for her and her child. It is pretty funny that we are both have the same situation with the same type of girl. it makes me lose more and more faith on humanity, ya know?

-bob

No you can't lose faith!!! it's all we have to hold on to and if you lose it then you can become a bitter empty shell of your former self. Just as there are many bad women out there, there are also a few good ones and believe me!!! they are worth searching for! so DON"T GIVE UP GUYS!!!

7Plagues · #80 05-07-2007, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by OLIE_ROCKS_THE_80'S

No you can't lose faith!!! it's all we have to hold on to and if you lose it then you can become a bitter empty shell of your former self. Just as there are many bad women out there, there are also a few good ones and believe me!!! they are worth searching for! so DON"T GIVE UP GUYS!!!

Does that mean I cant keep my 28 guitars?

OLIE_ROCKS_THE_80'S · #81 05-07-2007, 04:43 PM

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Does that mean I cant keep my 28 guitars?

Not at all mate!!!

I am happily maried and I have... let's just say far many more guitars than that

microdmitry · #82 05-07-2007, 04:44 PM

>> The first year is by far the roughest in a marriage

Not my experience at all. For me (and for a lot of my friends) 6-7th year was the hardest. That's when the daily grind begins to wear you and your spouse down. You have kids, you work very hard to pay off mortgage, you barely get any rest at all. And you do this for years on end. Sooner or later it takes its toll on you and if you don't realize where your issues really come from, you could blame it on your wife/husband. That's when a family either sticks together or breaks up.

7Plagues · #83 05-07-2007, 04:45 PM

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>> The first year is by far the roughest in a marriage

Not my experience at all. For me (and for a lot of my friends) 6-7th year was the hardest. That's when the daily grind begins to wear you and your spouse down. You have kids, you work very hard to pay off mortgage, you barely get any rest at all. And you do this for years on end. Sooner or later it takes its toll on you and if you don't realize where your issues really come from, you could blame it on your wife/husband. That's when a family either sticks together or breaks up.

the shame is the kids get affected and for me, it was the last night i wanted.

7Plagues · #84 05-07-2007, 04:46 PM

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Not at all mate!!!

I am happily maried and I have... let's just say far many more guitars than that

you're married and have more guitars. I totally envy you!

OLIE_ROCKS_THE_80'S · #85 05-07-2007, 04:51 PM

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you're married and have more guitars. I totally envy you!

There are good women out there Bob! you just have to look hard and not just settle for a killer body and a pretty face!

jb4674 · #86 05-07-2007, 05:08 PM

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There are good women out there Bob! you just have to look hard and not just settle for a killer body and a pretty face!

Absolutely! Just because she's pretty doesn't mean she's mature enough. Too many young adults these days are getting married only to find out that it wasn't for them. They think marriage is a joke and if it fails, then they can simply get divorced. There's simply no respect for the institution of marriage nowadays.

Jimmy

sick-boy · #87 05-07-2007, 05:34 PM

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Absolutely! Just because she's pretty doesn't mean she's mature enough. Too many young adults these days are getting married only to find out that it wasn't for them. They think marriage is a joke and if it fails, then they can simply get divorced. There's simply no respect for the institution of marriage nowadays.

Jimmy

Hey some young people respect it. I'm only 24 and I knew full well what it meant. It's my wife who didn't really know what she was getting into. She made a lot of jokes about if it didn't work out, she could always get a divorce. I used to get so pissed off at her when she said things like that. She didn't realize how bad jokes like that hurt me. It never even occurred to me that we would ever get a divorce. I respected the marriage. It was her that wanted to take me and our marriage for granted. I never disrespected it, and I still won't.

FloridaNative · #88 05-07-2007, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by OLIE_ROCKS_THE_80'S

You don't have to apologize for something you did not do! but the reality is that with women being so "liberated" nowadays they feel they can do anything and have no consequences, specially, the young ones

as you can read in all my posts I never just bashed females, and I'm 100% with JJemmer, it is the person not the "Gender" but you have to agree
that girls in this day and age are out of conrol and it is getting worse everyday unfortunately...

That is why I thank God I am happily married
and I'm no longer out there on the currrent scene looking for someone!

I guess I've been out of the loop myself for too long because this is all news to me. I had no idea that young girls were behaving so badly. It's a shame. It makes me wonder what kind of world it will be when my children are grown. But even as young as my daughter is now, I am teaching her to respect herself and that her behavior not only has consequences but it also reflects upon herself and her family. But she is a really good girl and she is not too much trouble. She really has a good heart and wants to do the right thing.

sick-boy · #89 05-07-2007, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by FloridaNative

I guess I've been out of the loop myself for too long because this is all news to me. I had no idea that young girls were behaving so badly.

You want to hear something that shocked the hell out of me when I heard it?
My teacher's wife for one of my classes is a nurse. She was telling me that in one of the cities she was in the average age that a child had sex was 8 years old. F*cking 8 years old! I was shocked (as was the rest of the class).