I am an ass...

Fender868 · #1 02-16-2008, 08:50 PM

Hey jemsite,

Need to rant again a bit, won't take long this time though...

My ex girlfriend came over today. Don't know what she expected though, but she came anyways. She's still recently hung over me. I had came on here before christmas i think or during the new year saying that she was having trouble dealing with us fighting and such small insignificant things. I did the best thing, the suggestion i was given from here, the most logical response and i ended the relationship. She's still hung over. She hates herself for doing what she did. That's not the problem.

I met another girl, and although there are some complicated things between me and this girl, things are starting to pick up. I.E., we made out all night at a party last night. We have some many things in common, yet enough differences to keep us from fighting. Anyways, we didn't talk about it much, but i am hoping that means we are seeing each other now. She came out of a relationship too and she left him because she felt he needed to work on some personal issues. Although, at the same time she was really falling for me i think, and it's probably another reason why she left him. All in all, i really want to be with this girl. She is talented, beautiful, exciting and refreshingly cultured. Nothing will stop me if she is on the same wave lenght as i am.

However, my ex girlfriend is still a friend. And since she found about the new girl, she is really sad. Tonight she cried a good 30 minutes. The real problem in all that is that no matter how much i try, and i feel like a monster for this, i just can't seem to care... She cried and maybe she just needed a shoulder to lie on, meanwhile i could only think of that girl i spent one of the most amazing nights of my life with. Everytime i am with this girl, i start to lose concioussness of my surroundings, time, space - hell everything! And it gets back to this, i don't know what to say to my ex. She cries, she is begging for something and i can't even be human. I just ignore it. It begins to annoy me and then i just want to leave. I could care less. In my head, i feel like she deserves it. After all, she left me over a simple arguement and when i didn't end up kissing her ass, she starts making a fit. She even told me, one of the reasons she wanted us to take a break or whatever it is she suggested was because some friend tried to kiss her and it confused her as she thought she liked him. So **** that. I feel bad, but there's a fire that burns that just makes me indifferent.

Am i that bad or is this simply reciprocal ?

CosmicDebris · #2 02-16-2008, 08:58 PM

Is this for real or did you see it in a soap oprah? Stop thinking with your "little" brain for a change.

Fender868 · #3 02-16-2008, 09:16 PM

Yeah i'd waste 10 minutes putting my thoughts just to make **** up. I'm sorry man, but that has to be the worst answer i've ever gotten to an honest question. Stop assuming things about my genitals either, i happen to be well hung just like every other real guys on here :P hehe

Smitty · #4 02-16-2008, 09:27 PM

Honestly, go with what feels right, man. I've always thought that giving too much thought too relationship dilemmas is just pointless; it's not like you can change the way you feel. If you don't wanna be with your ex, don't be regardless of how it goes with this new girl. The point of relationships is to be happy with another person whom you like and may one day love. If you don't feel it with your ex, just tell her straight up, and try for the new girl.
Go with your muse, man. You can't make the wrong choice if you do that.
smitty

Fender868 · #5 02-16-2008, 09:32 PM

I like that thought. Plus i was thinking, my ex was too time consuming. Barely had time to play guitar. She'd throw a fit unless i came and slept over or the other way around. This new girl also has a life, and so i see it meshing really well from here on out. She's a dancer, she competes, she lives it and loves it. Just as much as i love playing music, practice with the band and rocking out!

thanks smitty. It's worth thinking about it. Go with the flow!

CosmicDebris · #6 02-16-2008, 09:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Fender868

Yeah i'd waste 10 minutes putting my thoughts just to make **** up. I'm sorry man, but that has to be the worst answer i've ever gotten to an honest question. Stop assuming things about my genitals either, i happen to be well hung just like every other real guys on here :P hehe

It took you ten min to type that out that story?

GuitarGuru · #7 02-16-2008, 11:04 PM

I say keep both of them. ;P

waylay00 · #8 02-17-2008, 02:53 AM

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Originally Posted by GuitarGuru

I say keep both of them. ;P

+1

**GilkyBear** · #9 02-17-2008, 04:29 AM

Go with the new girl man. There is nothing like that awesome tingling little buzz you get with a chick you really dig. If you don't even care enough about the old one to console her then obviously it would go nowhere. Plus, that's already conquered territory. She is the one who wanted a time out, so now if you want to keep her around, tell her you still have feelings for her but to be fair, she is going to have to wait until this runs it course. The end result of course will be that she will throw herself at you at every opportunity and you will have the best of both worlds. Just a thought.

TongueShredder · #10 02-17-2008, 06:11 AM

Yup keep both of them. Make one of them as your contingency plan. If one fails, you have a backup.....

Ant1981 · #11 02-17-2008, 06:47 AM

One thing I've always found out, is, that once you've got a problem with a girl, you'll always have those problems. Especially if she does something wrong and expects you to kiss her ass over it, not worth it.

Pastures new, go with the new girl!

Fabio · #12 02-17-2008, 07:28 AM

Oh man, I totally see myself in that. And mostly, I totally see my ex in your ex :P I've been in the exact same boat.

Go with the new one, you'll never regret it in the end.

Don't feel bad because your ex is crying. You are in a relationship for your sake, not for hers.