If you kill someone, you (or your wife in the case mentioned above) go to jail! This only hurts your children!!
If all your wife did was bang another guy. That is not grounds for the Father to get full custody. If there were drugs involved, that is still not good enough...You would need to be able to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that she has some mental incapacity making it dangerous for her to be around the children. Which would of course make the court wonder why you went to work and left your wife with the children everyday. Cheating would prove your lack of interest/love for your wife, making her seek acceptance elsewhere!!
Also, a deed to a house with both names on it gets divided properly or awarded to the Mother who will undoubtedly get custody. Any bank accounts, money markets, cd's or any other monetary material that has been co-mingled (meaning with both your names on it) will be split 50-50. Even if that money was inherited from your family!!
As the Father you will be required to pay child support, spousal support, and still provide yourself with a home sizable enough to have your children stay over on weekends.
At the end of it there would be your legal fees as well as the mother of your children's legal fees. We are talking thousands of dollars...
If you live in an apartment, with not a lot of cash in the bank, one child, with a wife who has a history of mental instability on record at various hospitals...Then by all means divorce may be the best answer...monetarily for you!!!
Or you can suck it up and be a man and join in!! Making a whole new world for your relationship :razz:
Again, I'm just saying...