when it rains...........
it looks like we're on the road to getting a divorce. just married a year, and together for 7. i can chalk it up to her never wanting to talk and her 2 kids run her. you would think she would be happy with a guy who has no kids who tries to help her out with her kids. i know i would be grateful to find someone like that. she is more of a friend than a mother to them. our roles are reversed. she never wants to talk and i know we need to. she always has something else to do like watching her tv shows or something else.
she gets crazed when i try to talk about issues....her kids or money. her 12 year old kid (that i have know since she was 5) has always been a brat and has never talked to anyone unless they are buying her something or telling her how great she is. i have spent HOURS trying to talk to this kid nicely, trying to explain stuff, and she just sits there. it's like literally having a mannequin in your house. her mom won't help me....she tells me to just leave her alone. i'm paying for a roof over this kid's head and she can't even say hi to me! even when i say hi back. when i get home, if the kid is downstairs, she runs up to her room and closes the door. i have never done anything but try to talk to them and be there for them. the kid's father tells me he has the same issue with this kid. i'm getting done especially with recent issues. the wife wants to leave, she isn't happy. this is not a first time thing. she has pulled this before and each time it gets worse.
she is leaving this weekend to take her mother to new jersey to help her sister with their newborn. she will be back sunday, staying at her mom's house for 3 months while her mother is gone. i just came to find out she is taking her X with her since she doesn't want to drive all that way with only the kids. they are friends but i draw the line there. i would NEVER even think of going somewhere like that with a girl, especially an X. it would bother my wife. i have talked to this guy and he has a decent head on his shoulders and has had the same issues with his kid and my wife (when they were dating years ago.) she can't handle me getting an xmas card from a female friend across the country but i have to accept this road trip. she said she doesn't care and that it doesn't concern me. doesn't concern me? after 3 days of this, this morning i finally said we will work on the papers when she gets back and i bagged the house photos in frames to throw out. i told her she better take them with her if she wants them. she is so back and forth...she wants a divorce then she said we need time apart, and then it's back again. time apart for what? she won't talk when she gets back. she said we'll go for counseling. i heard that before. she can't make time for me and i tried again last night....she was watching smallville. this is very old. you know, she is great half the time; great housewife (because she wants to, not because i expect stuff done for me) but when she is evil she is evil.
my brother lost his job
my uncle is in the hospital for heart surgery with no warning at all of issues.
the co. i just started with just got bought out so there is uncertainty.
who here who has been through divorce has anything to say about it? i was looking online and found a legal way for $249. i hope to make it fast and painless. she said i can have the townhouse. well i hope so since i pay for everything but her name is on it so i could be screwed. she can live with her mom and brats....i am the one with nowhere to go.
bottom line, i'm done with chicks, i'm done with them all. sorry this was so long.
Last edited by shredmaster; 11-10-2006 at 01:39 PM.