Join Date: Feb 2001
Location: London, Ontario, Canada
I'd like to make a few points clear since the other thread got closed.
I do not abuse my girlfriend in any way, I never have, and I never will.
Posting the link wasn't to "make me feel better". It was to educate people (I hoped) about a very real problem. There is a disturbing amount of young people who have very negative views of certain issues, and this is one of the most important ones. Abuse, whether it's physical, verbal, psychological, sexual, or any other form, is a serious problem right now. I see it every day at school (college), including in my own classmates. I saw it in high school, and I see it in high school students right now (in fact, worse than when I was in high school).
The following are things I've overheard, somewhat graphic, if this thread gets censored/closed, I understand, but I feel my point needs to be made. I don't care if these comments were meant in humour or not, it's still wrong. (any starred out words is done by me, not by the swear filter)
I heard a guy in my class (my age, 20 yrs old) talking about another girl in my class, saying she's "totally rape-able" and that you could rape her and she'd be like "whatever" (his words).
I overheard a bunch of high school guys at a concert (probably 15 or 16 years old) talking about their sexual experience, and (I'm not making this up) "spitting on her ass so she thinks your done, then when she turns around, shooting it on her face."
I realize that people thought I was blaming the media entirely, which I wasn't, and neither was the article. However, in a world (and countries) where this is already a serious problem, the media does nothing to help, except tell these abusive people that they're alright and to keep doing what they're doing.
This is not trying to blame others for problems, this is about facing the problems with society itself, as well as individuals.
I'm sure the people who made negative posts on the other thread probably enjoy the sorts of shows that are similar (though I'm sure milder) than the one described in the article, and I'm sure they aren't abusive to women. But how anyone can ignore the serious problems with that kind of "humour" is beyond me.
I've said all I need to say. I apologize to the Moderators if this breaks any rules, and will accept any actions on their part that results from it. I felt I needed to get this message out, and I hope that some people stopped and read it and took it seriously. It's not a joke, it's not funny, it's a sign of insecurity to demean others, and anyone who says otherwise is refusing to admit something about themselves and their society.