While I personally have never had to deal with addiction, everybody I know who has successfully quit and not relapsed quit entirely based off their own will power.
Although Mike's post would directly contradict mine and he lived it, so I'd trust him!
Not at all. Willpower is EVERYTHING. The patch only helped moderately.
Other things that helped, I think:
I worked out a lot, running especially. Get out and enjoy the outdoors.
Sleep. I tried to sleep more than normal. It helped a little with withdrawl, I think. Don't sleep with the patch on if you use it. You'll have some funky dreams.
Ultimately, I think the reason I failed on all my previous attempts is because I couldn't truly visualize myself as a non-smoker. I'd try to quit, but somewhere in the back of my head I doomed myself to fail. I'd tell myself this is an "attempt" to quit, rather than the actual final process. I don't know if that makes sense. You really have to SEE yourself living life as a non-smoker. No smoke with coffee. None on the morning drive. None after sex. None after dinner. NONE! This was a very tough thing, both psychologically and chemically but it CAN BE DONE. Believe it!
I wanted to quit too. No one coerced me. Not family, girls, friends... nothing. I just was smoking a cigarette one day and was tired of how nasty they tasted. A close friend of mine had quit a month prior so it helps having a friend going through the same thing.
I try to help my friends out who want to quit. I will drop what I'm doing at a given moment if someone needs a "talking down".
Anyone here is welcome to PM me too. I'll put my e-mail up later if it isn't in my profile. I would be more than glad to help!