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post #1 of 19 (permalink) Old 10-02-2007, 03:59 PM Thread Starter
 
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My girlfriend's mother. It's her birthday today and I want her to feel very special, and on top of that, see me for the kinda guy I am. I don't want her to see me as some low life who is going to treat her daughter to any less in life than she deserves, and I want her to know that I am a good man. I decided that I would give her a simple gift than is poignant and not monetary because she hates those kinda gifts.

Her favorite color is orange so I was thinking of giving her a few orange roses or maybe a small bouquet of orange flowers. Would this be alright, or does an orange flower represent something that I don't know about? I don't want to creep her out or anything, so I hope orange doesn't mean anything sexual or bad...
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hehehehehe Try this....

http://www.teleflora.com/flowercolors.asp

Ay if it were me, I'd want a pass to a day spa! But that's just me! hehehehe Flowers are always lovely. Taking her and the daughter out to a nice restaurant is always a good choice as well. That way mom doesn't have to cook and wash the dishes for a change.
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Orange is a mixture of red and yellow, so you likely won't find any cultural meanings from the color, as you would for either red or yellow. I think you're safe
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She loves to cook and refuses to be taken out to dinner. She's of Hispanic origin so she is very very into cooking meals for the family and such. Otherwise, I would have done exactly that.

How much are day spa passes? I only have 30 bucks, I'm almost out of the cash I made from my live gigs and I'm already expecting to live off of no money whatsoever for the next week as long as I can give her a gift.
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By the way, thanks a ton for that site FloridaNative!
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the gesture will be nice so a small floral arrangement seems like a no brainer... glen
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Yeah,i guess it also depends on how long you've known her. You don't want to appear too OTT if you don't know her that well
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She loves to cook and refuses to be taken out to dinner. She's of Hispanic origin so she is very very into cooking meals for the family and such. Otherwise, I would have done exactly that.

How much are day spa passes? I only have 30 bucks, I'm almost out of the cash I made from my live gigs and I'm already expecting to live off of no money whatsoever for the next week as long as I can give her a gift.
I'm hispanic too and I cook every single day. But believe me, as much as I like to cook, washing the dishes all the time gets lame. If someone wanted to take me out to dinner I'd be all over it! Unfortunately nobody wants to. hehehehehe

I have no idea what a day spa pass would cost, I've never been, hence the reason I'd love to go! hehehehe If your budget is 30 bucks then flowers would probably be your best bet! You can get a nice arrangement for 30 dollars.

Oh PS... Is she into gardening? If she likes to garden then maybe you could buy her a live plant instead of just cut flowers. Then she can plant it and it will be the gift that keeps on giving. I always request live plants instead of cut flowers and have several nice gardenia and rose bushes now!
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Ok well my girlfriend wanted to go with me to a flower shop...as it turns out she wanted to give her a flower too! So we both got her roses, one from each of us, and my girlfriend was really happy. All is well!
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One rose from each of you? A grand total of two roses? Spendthrift!

Don't forget, if shings go well she'll be your mother-in-law one day. Save yourself the bother now and buy her a chocolate covered hand grenade.....
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I thoughtgiving one flower is an intimate thing, it says "I love you" better than a bunch of roses.
Maybe I'm wrong.

Get her a fruit bowl and a bag of oranges.

Joke aside, go to Pier1 and check out the orange stuff they have, scented candles, knick knacks, potpourri, etc.

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Be her daughters best friend, love her and keep her safe. I cannot think of a better gift to a mother

Flower arangement with a nice note of how much you care sounds good. Addressing her as Mom may not hurt either
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Addressing her as Mom may not hurt either
No disrespect intended to you Jim, but with latinos this can backfire. Just giving a cultural heads up. Latino families are notoriously close knit and an "outsider" calling the matriarch of the family "mom" could be construed as being too pushy or even rude. I don't know this woman or her family, but if it were my own, I can tell you the best way to get points is to be respectful and know your place. You have to earn your way into the family and that takes time for them to get to know you and see that you are good enough for their little girl. Be gentlemanly with the girl. Open the car door for her, treat her with respect and always always bring her home on time. Get to know her parents and address them as "ma'am" and "sir" until they tell you otherwise. Be open and talk about your own family and in time you will win them over. Good luck to you.
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"outsider" calling the matriarch of the family "mom" could be construed as being too pushy or even rude.
Hmmmmmm.......well since the daughters boyfriend is considered an "outsider" what does he have to lose?? Any mom regardless of ethnic background will appreciate genuine and true caring for her daughter. And trust me.....mom knows!! She may even have an open enough mind to take his calling her "mom" as a compliment and a show of sincerity and commitment to the family. Doesn't hurt to offer to make dinner for the family as well If she (they) still insist you stay "outside", then use the BBQ

And....no offense taken, Jen
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Hmmmmmm.......well since the daughters boyfriend is considered an "outsider" what does he have to lose?? Any mom regardless of ethnic background will appreciate genuine and true caring for her daughter. And trust me.....mom knows!! She may even have an open enough mind to take his calling her "mom" as a compliment and a show of sincerity and commitment to the family. Doesn't hurt to offer to make dinner for the family as well If she (they) still insist you stay "outside", then use the BBQ

And....no offense taken, Jen
LOL None taken, but I'm just telling you how it is. You have no idea how tight these family units are, but yes any mom can tell if a boy is being genuinely caring and respectful to her daughter I agree with that. There is a saying in Spanish "soberbia y orgullo" (haughtiness and pride) that kind of sums up the mindset. This is what this boy has to overcome, that's why I give the caution. He will be watched closely to see how he acts, and speaks and presents himself so I just think it's best to err on the side of caution. Just my humble 2 cents.
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