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post #1 of 31 (permalink) Old 11-15-2006, 05:53 AM Thread Starter
 
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I know I've posted a similiar post before and I know this is no place to dump problems, But me and girlfriend recently broke up after like 9 or more months and I feel like utter crap, It was for what's got to be one of the stupidist reason's ever, and this happened on the 12th and she already has another boyfriend. Knowing this, makes me feel even worse.....I know "you have a jem what do you gotta worry about" I really am Glad I have that guitar, I've been down lately and made some good music with it, but nonetheless I still feel like crap and dont know what to do.
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post #2 of 31 (permalink) Old 11-15-2006, 06:18 AM
 
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Everyday people breakup or get screwed over in relationships but it always feels personal for some reason. The bitch is that no matter how many times it happens to you, it always hurts like the first time. Its the way we are built and I guess the only real cure is time. Dating someone or getting married is a crap shoot. You can look at it this way: If she is already with someone else shes gonna do the same to the next guy and so on. Some people just do not take relationships seriously. Believe me man, I went through some crap last spring that turned my whole world upside down at the time with a girl. I didnt believe the devil was real until I met her kinda bad. I bet that new 7vwh will bring many new good memories to your life and she wont leave yah either:}
Just dont take it personally, its not worth the energy to try to figure out what you did or didnt do. When I look back at the girlfriends I had, Im actually kinda glad there gone or realized it would have never turned into anything anyways.
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post #3 of 31 (permalink) Old 11-15-2006, 06:29 AM Thread Starter
 
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yeah bro I hear ya, Im just at that "it's hard to get over it" stage and yeah seeing she has another guy is like infuriating and whatnot.
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I know I've posted a similiar post before and I know this is no place to dump problems, But me and girlfriend recently broke up after like 9 or more months and I feel like utter crap, It was for what's got to be one of the stupidist reason's ever, and this happened on the 12th and she already has another boyfriend. Knowing this, makes me feel even worse.....I know "you have a jem what do you gotta worry about" I really am Glad I have that guitar, I've been down lately and made some good music with it, but nonetheless I still feel like crap and dont know what to do.
Exact same happend to me but after my very first relationship and it was 2.5 years. Happend in august and I've had 5 suicide attempts since then. It is infuriating. Especially if she was a whole different person when you were going out with her and then she turns all understanding and nice and what not.
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post #5 of 31 (permalink) Old 11-15-2006, 07:21 AM
 
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My gf broke up with me on msn , which i thought was pretty pathetic, then she had another boyfreind 2 weeks later and didnt even tell me (we were still talking everynight), her freind told me. That was right on a year ago and shes had another 4 bf s since. It didnt help she did it at the start of the final year exam block either.

She left a pretty big hole in my life and i pretty much filled it with guitar. So maybe it was for the best.
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post #6 of 31 (permalink) Old 11-15-2006, 07:28 AM
 
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Never make woman more important than music!

Be real about it. If it's over, it's over. I don't know how old you are, but even for me it's hard to break up. The trick is to always turn negativity into positivity. I may sound silly, but it works for me. Are women really worth you feeling down?
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No woman, no cry
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post #8 of 31 (permalink) Old 11-15-2006, 07:41 AM
 
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You feel crap because you dont feel as good as you did when you were together but you have to realize that if you just forget about her, you'll only feel as bad as you did before you meat her in the first place.

What i learned from my experience is A) dont go out with drama queens and B) never let yourself get ***** whipped
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Eddie, that sucks man, and I know it is easy to say from the outside looking in, but everything happens for a reason. As hard as it is to do, believe me, stay positive. Because the best revenge is being happy. If you have a positive attitude, you will no doubt score another girl, and probably a hotter one, which will only serve to piss her off and show her how stupid she was. If you let it get you down it will take a long time to get a new girl, they have a sixth sense about that kind of thing. Keep your head up brother...
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post #10 of 31 (permalink) Old 11-15-2006, 08:07 AM
 
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Hey Eddie.

Look at it THIS way:

You're cute, you're young, you have crazy guitar skills, and you have your WHOLE life ahead of you! There will be many more.

~ Katrina
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Eddie..... Women are like guitars! Some are sweet sounding and have a few nicks and dings, but you polish them up.... and wow! Ya got what ya think is a keeper. Then suddenly you change string gauge and discover the neck has a problem...... you've always wondered, because every time the weather changed the thing was a bitch to tune. But you overlooked it because you didn't realize it wasn't supposed to be like that. So out the door with that!

Then you find something exotic like a 7 string...... wow, this is way cool, different. Then shortly there after, you realize it's costing you more time and money to play it. More up-keep and now you have to work harder to tune it to..... (damn extra string's just a pain in the @ss)! Soon it's too much, you're having to change everything about how you play, and out the door it goes! Traded to another guy in the neighborhood. Kinda piss's ya though, to see him enjoying it so much, plus he's got better chops and really makes it sing. Oh well, so you watch from a distance..... learn some of his "bag of tricks"!

Meanwhile, you're hitting every music store looking for that perfect guitar..... Trying out some new ones..... some real high dollar/high maintenance ones, those are sweet but just out of your league. Even though you can afford them. They're just too fancy or too fragile! Needing to be pampered like a Hollywood starlet! Plus every other guy you meet is wanting to play them because they are so sweet looking. Always asking you, "are you serious about that guitar..... cause if not they want to play it hard too".

Then suddenly you spot it..... just hanging there in the music store. You've walked past it a thousand times and looked but never tried it out, nothing exotic, just simple, smooth lines, sweet body contours, no damage, but with all the features you've been looking for, you pull it down, play a few licks and realize this thing has some sweet action, well balanced tone, nice pickups, (but they could be hotter) but man it complements your playing style, so you settle for buying this one!

Looking back you realize you've been through 20 or 30 guitars.... heck you can't even remember some of them! Lucky you found this one though. And here it is 20 yrs. later you still have that same one...... same sweet action, well balanced tone, nice pickups (still not the hottest, but well rounded, firm, but smooth tone) and with age you've become accustom to her sweet spots, and know how to get the best out of each other. Worked on the frets a little, keep her polished, learned to be a better player and man can you make it scream now too! All your old "buds" are going "dude you've really become a great player", and that guitar..... I gotta find one just like it...... As you proudly polish it after a big gig and party, you say to them..... "dudes, ya just have to be patient..... that perfect axe for you is out there, you'll find it some day too. Just keep looking!"

Hang in there! "Blues anin't nothin but a good man feeling down. Lots of towns, lots of women...."
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Trouble is though......he's now looking for a girl with a monkey grip
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I know "you have a jem what do you gotta worry about" I really am Glad I have that guitar
He just got that!!!!! duh.... read his post!!!
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If she already has a another boyfriend after a couple of days, then the fact that the two of you are no longer in a relationship together, is not worth shedding a tear over. In fact, you should be glad about it. You are better of without her.

I was in love with someone once. The love wasn't mutual. For a couple of months I was devastated. Deeply depressed and just totally broken. But in time, I got it back together.

It takes time, but you'll move on.

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, this happened on the 12th and she already has another boyfriend.
SOOOOOO typical

Hang in there Eddie! There are many more important things in life!

Pick up your geeter!
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