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post #1 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-13-2006, 06:36 AM Thread Starter
 
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I think I'm in serious trouble... with 2 women...

Ten years ago I met someone I'd still die and kill for. But things broke (fate?). You see I live in Germany, she's Italian...
As time moved on I was lokking for women to substitute... found no match but I guess no I have someone I'm just used to. I'm together with her for nearly three years and all I want is my old and first girlfriend back. My new one is cutting me out of Music. I lost my Band... I lost Sologigs, I don't find time to practise or write... **** THAT... What shall I Do?
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post #2 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-13-2006, 06:43 AM
 
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If you're thinking about your old girlfriend and you think things are going wrong leave her! You shouldn't stay with a girl you don't like
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I'm thinking the same... I just don't seem to have the balls to do what seems to be so damn right... And that's what's holding me back. Because I know I should but I dont do it... So something must be up.
And to all this comes this terrible heartache when I think about the time with my italian sweetheart. I just read an article bout how much power your first real love has got over you and how it set the trck for your future... that agaon made me think i really should jump. But still IÄm afraid off ending like a jerk

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Leave her if shes stopping you from being who you are. And you shouldn't look for "your first girlfriend" in another girl, just find another girl that's cool and you like.
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post #5 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-13-2006, 07:00 AM Thread Starter
 
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But the first one keeps haunting in all other relationships I ever had. You see, our relation broke due to fate and not because one of us wanted it to end... so we never officaly broke up...
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post #6 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-13-2006, 07:05 AM
 
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Maybe you won't be back with your girlfriend but for shure your actual seems not to be the right one...you'll find something that will fit you like a Jem!!
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post #7 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-13-2006, 07:06 AM Thread Starter
 
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@ AleTheNervo: i did send you a private message... did you get it?
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post #8 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-13-2006, 07:08 AM Thread Starter
 
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LIke a Jem... yeah, that'll be great
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post #9 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-13-2006, 01:33 PM
 
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An understanding woman won't cut you off doing what you like, If you were me I'll already kick her, but that's just me, did you at least try to keep in touch with your first love?
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post #10 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-15-2006, 04:15 AM Thread Starter
 
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sorry for not answering. I had a tough weekend.
to mi2tom: Yeah kind of. We kept writing letters for some time. Then I moved to a diffrent country for a year to study an dlost touch. Six months ago I found her emailadress on the net (i'm like a dirty dog...) and wrote her. We now have a more or less regular contact...
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sorry for not answering. I had a tough weekend.
to mi2tom: Yeah kind of. We kept writing letters for some time. Then I moved to a diffrent country for a year to study an dlost touch. Six months ago I found her emailadress on the net (i'm like a dirty dog...) and wrote her. We now have a more or less regular contact...
If you really want her then do more than contacting her through e mail, save up money and go to italy for a holiday, This may sound a bit scary but if you can ... marry her and bring her over to germany
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post #12 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-15-2006, 04:46 AM Thread Starter
 
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That's exactly what I'm trying to do, man...
But I just started a musicschool on my own and I have little to no income right now. The bank's killing me and I'm to afraid of being turned down. But I bought a course to learn italian...
Believe me... I I coud, I would. right now. I got the route printed out and I already now it inside out. I would take me 6,5 hours to got there and do what has to be done...
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^hey man..that's a big problem...if I were in your place I would just leave things they way they are....life isn't so romantic man...just explain to you current girlfriend that you need to continue your musical path...if she likes you she will understand...if she doesn't just leave her and search your first girlfriend...but the most important thing now is find out if your current gf likes you or not and based on that you will prepare your next move (she understands and agrees...fine keep her....if she doesn't understand just **** that...go search for your girl and your music but be very carefull or you'll lose them both and you music...)

Keep cool my friend

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post #14 of 20 (permalink) Old 05-15-2006, 04:54 AM
 
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^His real love is his first one,

Joey, money always seems to be a problem, no need to be afraid of being turn down, at least you know you won't be chasing a shadow, if she really loves you she'll accept it without concerning you're broke or not, I say give it a try
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^I know that...that's why i'm saying that life isn't so romantic.....but....if you're not happy AT ALL with this one...I think you should try to get back to your first gf
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